Case 2
You were a
student teacher at a local high school 5 years ago. During this time, Cara went
to the same high school although she was never one of your students. Tonight,
you are dancing at a local club and Cara asks you to dance. Cara is now 23 and
you are less than 5 years older than she is. You and Cara really hit it off and
you think you could have a meaningful relationship with her.
I
wanted to challenge myself so I decided respond to this case study. The
following assumption is made while I answered the question: I assumed that in
this scenario, the teacher never had a professional relationship with the
student Cara and they never had a personal relationship together until the day they
met at the club. My response follows:
Since
Cara was never my student and she has now graduated from high school and is 23,
the scenario of having a meaningful relationship with her is most likely not
illegal. However, the situation might lead to some ethical questioning that might
place my respect/authority as a professional teacher in jeopardy. This can be
due to others’ possible misunderstanding about my relationship with Cara. Therefore,
before I think about contacting Cara again, I would first record the situation
in writing and report it to my supervisor at school. Then I would schedule a
conference with my supervisor and obtain input/advice from my supervisor. I
would only think about proceeding with having a romantic relationship with Cara
if I obtain approval and support from my supervisor. I understand that if Cara
and I decide to have a romantic relationship together, I will have to explain the
situation to possibly my students, their parents, and my colleagues. If I do
not obtain support and approval from my supervisor, my only option is to tell
Cara that because I love and value my job as an educator, I can’t have a
relationship with her.